When do we stand up and say this is my child, I am doing a damn good job with him/her. Parenting styles may be different, and that's okay. Why is it okay then, that we allow ourselves to be stepped over, and shamed for our decisions, instead of applauded and respected.
As our children grow, we get into the comparisons, thank you Parenting magazines and milestone quizzes. ( Is your 9 month old talking, reading and doing multiplication tables while standing on a ball yet? No? You may want to see your pediatrician for a referral to a specialist.)
I should mention here, that I am perfectly fine with however Bug is going to turn out. I personally am NOT a genius, nor am I even close to being one. Therefore, if Bug does end up taking after me, instead of her child genius Daddy, it's okay. I will not be disappointed, because honestly, how annoying would it be having 2 people in the house who can talk me around in circles? My wish for Anna, is to learn empathy, compassion, assertiveness and confidence in herself. If she is an A student, that's okay, and if she is a C student, that is okay, as long as she tries her hardest. Am I setting her up for failure? I don't think so.
3 comments:
I agree. There is way too much pressure out there to do this mommy thing "perfectly". I have a post brewing in my head about that because I have recently realized that I don't have to do it perfect. The mommy guilt that comes from society, we can all do without.
The mommy guilt that comes from being a mommy, however, I don't think you can get away from. I think it just shows us that we are trying to do our best in a job where we should always be wearing an "In training to serve you better" button. If we didn't feel guilty, it would be because we didn't care.
(Just discovered your blog yesterday! Welcome to bloggyworld!)
I do agree with you on the personal part of it, and I'm sure our parents though t it as well, but we all just need to cut ourselves some slack when we do the best we can! And honestly, some days, I don't want to throw the ball for 2 hours, I don't want to clean paint from all over my kitchen, or flour, or whatever. Sometimes, I just want to relax and veg.. and I wish there was a way to know that that is really okay. ya know?
I agree with all of this too. All we can do is our best just like we expect from them. We need to expect that from us too. Not to be perfect, but doing the best we can in the circumstance we are in. If we are loving our kids, and their basic needs are all met, what more can be asked of us?
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